Everyone will experience grief at some point, but grief can present itself in so many different ways. Trauma, Grief, and Recovery – Trauma Is More Than PTSD by Dr. Stephen Claude A Hyatt introduces the reader to diverse expressions of grief and offers practical advice for helping loved ones in meaningful ways.
Grief: More Than Sadness
Crying, sadness, or withdrawal are often associated with grief, but those are just a few ways people cope with loss, says Dr. Hyatt, who explains grief is influenced by personal history, culture, relationships, and even biology. A few people may use work, others might go into solitude, and some might show anger or indifference.
The book stresses there is no wrong or right reaction. Knowing that you remove judgment and will have more understanding if someone’s response doesn’t fit into the common expectations.
Why Compassion Starts with Awareness
Dr. Hyatt’s guide points out that listening without assumptions can be very important. There are so many people who don’t know what grief is supposed to look like and then they go around imposing their own ideas of what grief should look like and they leave people who are grieving feeling like they are not understood or have not been supported.
The book provides simple advice, like asking open-ended questions and letting people talk about how they feel when they are comfortable enough to share. The suggestion isn’t to try to ‘fix’ the person – instead, it encourages the process of just being present.
Tools for Providing Personalized Support
Each suggestion chapter is designed to help readers better understand the unique ways grief may unfold, with actionable tools to provide meaningful help. These include:
- Practical Support: For those overwhelmed by daily tasks, offering to handle errands, cook meals, or assist with childcare can make a significant difference.
- Emotional Presence: Sometimes, being a quiet and nonjudgmental presence is more valuable than any words of advice.
- Recognizing Triggers: Grief can resurface on anniversaries, holidays, or other significant dates. To help people feel less alone in the current time, Dr. Hyatt recommends simple gestures, like sending a note or making a phone call, to let someone know they’re not alone.
Grief’s Unpredictable Timeline
Grief doesn’t follow a normal timeline, as do many other life experiences. Some people will be ready to move on in months, and others will take years to process. Dr. Hyatt asks readers to be kind to these timelines and to refrain from putting pressure on loved ones to “move on.”
A Guide for Everyone
Trauma, Grief, and Recovery is a straightforward and easy-to-read guide to help make meaning of individual grief, facilitate the encouragement of a friend mourning, and offer guidance for caretakers. This is why it is possible and important to respond with more kindness when people know that grief is a personal loss.
As with grief, Dr. Hyatt’s book reminds us that while it feels unique to each person, we can always find thoughtful, kind ways to support one another. Anyone wishing to have a better understanding of grief or how to help others cope with it should keep this guide handy.